I was reading an article called: Just Like My Mother: How We Inherit Our Parents’ Traits and Tragedies
This article speaks of a young woman that is Vietnamese. Here parents came from Vietnam.
They came from war, heartbreak and trauma of what happened to them when they escaped Vietnam.
They passed these wounds and trauma along to this young woman, their daughter.
Her parents were terrified of losing her and went to extremes to control their environment through fear, terror and anger.
One day, this young woman realized she had become her mother.
I am intrigued by this article because it is what I have learned and mentor others through when I mentor coach them.
It is what my 6 week course is about.
We inherit wounds from our parents, they inherited them from their parents and on down the line of generational trauma.
Each generation has passed it along to the next and the next and the next.
Usually, they don’t know they are doing it. It was given to them and they pass it along unconsciously.
Now, we have it and we have no idea WHY we do what we do or behave the way we do.
This is WHY it happens.
We are generationally wounded and, until now, we continued passing the wounds along to the next generations.
Maybe you are already familiar with this conversation. Possibly you’ve read or experienced the truth of this.
If this is the 1st time you’ve read anything about this, it is a BIG topic.
If you are now reading this, guess what?
We are the ones that get to break the cycle of this wounding, if you choose to.
Our parents or parental figure have their wounds from their parents. Often they are not aware of this wounding.
It is just how they are!!
Have you ever heard them say that: “It’s just how I am.”
Basically, they are saying: “This is how I am and I am not interested in changing or being different.”
This is okay. Doing something different can be scary.
We are the generation of information and enlightenment.
Therefore, it is our role NOW to HEAL these wounds.
It is our responsibility to BREAK the cycle of generational wounding.
By doing this transformational evolution, we light the way for others to follow.
Lighting the way can be BIG or simply BEING the example for others in our life to see and potentially follow.
This began when I learned about the inner child and how to begin the process of healing the deep wounds that permeated my world.
I recently read a story that touched me in a different way about the inner child.
This article spoke of a woman that was well put together. She looked beautiful on the outside.
On the inside, she was ‘dead’.
She was wounded and knew how to look good, but had no idea how to feel her feelings or deal with what was on the inside.
This auther asked her:
If you adopted a wounded, traumatized dog from the shelter, how would you treat it?
She said she would love it, care for it, feed it, nurture it and make it feel safe.
He then asked her: why would you not treat yourself the same way.
Technically, we are all animals, so why would you treat yourself, the wounded animal inside (the inner child) different?
I offer this to you as another way to view the woundedness that lives with you.
Will you consider treating yourself the way you’d treat a wounded animal, being able to see it as a part of your wounding?
How will you treat yourself going forward?
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